Song of The Day

Artist: Shontelle
Song: Impossible
Album: No Gravity

We Lost An Angel Today 9 years ago

I just wanted to shout out Aaliyah a singer taken long before her time. We love and miss you very much...Today everyone should break out your Aaliyah albums and rock to them I got my favorite on blast One And A Million...

Songs of the Day

Travie McCoy- Billionaire (feat. Bruno Mars)
Album- Lazarus


B.o.B- Airplanes (feat. Haley Williams of Paramore)
Album- The Adventures of Bobby Ray



Paramore- The Only Exception
Album- Brand New Eyes















Tell me what you guys think...

Peace and Love

Carrie L.

Sleeve or No Sleeve? That is the Question...

OK so today I decided to make a new move. I decided that I want to get a sleeve done. For all of my readers who have no idea what I'm talking about, I am referring to tattoo that covers my entire arm. Now I have been fascinated with tattoos for as long as I can remember. I got my first one for my 17th birthday. and I've been getting them ever since, I now have 6. But I wanted a sleeve after seeing the very sexy Kat Von D. She, not my style, has them all over her entire body. That's not exactly the route I want to take...lol. I am an artist and I consider my body a canvas. Yes I know what some of you are thinking...why? Well simply put I just want to. This post is also inspired by one of my favorite artist out right now Wiz Khalifa and one of my favorite songs of his "Ink My Whole Body". Hey I'm not worried about what it will look like when I'm 60 and hey it might look pretty fucking awesome in my opinion. So who care about tats. I've had people say things like "what about getting a job" or "your wedding pictures" or "what if a man doesn't find them attractive". I can cover my tats for jobs my husband will love them and if they are a part of my body they will show in my pictures and I haven't met a man yet that hasn't found my tats sexy and creative. So here is a question for you all of my wonderful readers, Should I or shouldn't I? And if you think I should what should I get? I'm open, and let's be creative no hearts with arrows through them or black panthers or tribal ink. Creativity is key...

Peace and Love

Carrie L.

Harmless Crushes...While in a relationship....

When you're in a relationship - harmless crushes. are they really harmless?
Hello all my loyal readers...I decided to get back to writing and I know I have been gone for while but now I'm back. Well a friend of mine was tired of my absence and I told her that I would start writing again. She even gave me a great topic to work with for this post. This ones for you Ami.

Crushes while in relationships, are they harmless? Well in my opinion crushes can be harmless and that's only if they are not acted on while in a relationship. It is human to be attracted to someone other than your significant other, its in our nature to have a certain type and sometimes we will come across someone who we might be attracted to. But while in a relationship you should always stick with what you got. The grass isn't always greener on the other side.You have to take into consideration what you would be giving up if you were to act on a crush. I do not condone cheating by any means but if you are unhappy and you feel like you and your significant other are not working out and you happen to meet someone you think may be better for you then yes act on you crush. I have had bad experiences with relationships, and in some I left my significant other for what I thought was something better. And I was completely wrong and in the end I regret leaving. Many times I think of what could have been if had I stayed like I should have. Crushes can be great for single people and they can be harmless for those of us in relationships as long as they are NOT and I repeat NOT acted on. I like having crushes it gives you more of a reason to flirt and yes for all you lovers out there flirting can be harmless as long as it remains tasteful and platonic. When you have someone that you love in your life and they love you back you should count you blessings because in this day in age love is hard to find. Crushes are harmless, if they remain crushes...period.


Peace and Love

Carrie L.

Story: Never Leave Things Unsaid

Hey readers I haven't been here in so long. I'm sorry there has been alot of things coming and going in my life. But I'm going be real with y'all I miss writing it keeps me sane in my world of chaos.

Today's post is going to be a story about a girl named Cai and her road to self destruction. Cai has been with this dude for almost a year off and on and she really loves him very much. She, in this relationship, has been the one not giving as much to him as he has to her. She struggled to remain the person he put on this pedestal. She wanted to give him all of her and just couldn't. She never cheated or went outside of their relationship until, one night she went out to a club with friends and had a little too much to drink and ended up getting a dudes number. At first it was innocent and she didn't intend on using the number, what she had forgotten was she had given the dude her number as well. Later he texts her after not hearing from her in a week. They texts back and forth for a while but nothing that wasn't only friendly. Until one day her man ended up finding the text messages in her phone and he ended breaking up with her for lack of trust. Although broken up they still continued to sleep with each other and hang together. Couple months down the road she started to hang out with the dude from the club who shes ended up sleeping with as well. She saw no harm in doing it mainly because she and her man were still broken up. Her man kept telling her he loved her and apologized for going through her phone, and told her that he wanted to get back together. But when he got drunk he would argue with Cai about not wanting to be him. She tells him that she needs time to find herself and get her life together before she could completely give her all to him. But she knew that in her heart he was the only one for her. In her mind he was priority and she would never be with anyone but him. Her mistake lied with the fact she didn't tell her man about the other dude she was seeing. She wanted to tell him but she found it hard to say anything to him because she was scared of losing him altogether. Her friend told her that no matter what trust is the best policy and how much could it hurt if the two of them weren't together anyway. She said still maybe its something he doesn't need to know. Her friend's questioned her. What will you do if he finds out? You already know he has his ways of finding things out. What if he goes through your phone again? She says she'll be careful, her friend said just tell him. She finally agrees to tell him after much debate. One day she woke up to find text messages from him telling her he can't do what they were doing with her anymore. Perplexed she calls him so they can talk. They begin arguing back and forth, until she finally admits to him what was going on. All he said was that he knew for a while and all he wanted was her honesty, her argument was that she was afraid to tell him because she didnt want him to leave her. Mind you Cai is fragile minded things affect her alot harder than they do most people. Her man is done and need to get back to work and hangs up the phone he tells her he will call her when he gets off work. Cai takes this as he's not going to call and that he is in fact done with her. In his mind he's going to talk with her more about later on he loves her and would do anything for her all he was asking for was for her to be honest he didn't care if she was doing her they weren't together he only asked that she tell him. Meanwhile Cai is distraught she turns off her phone leaves it in the house and leaves to go for a drive. She needed some air. Cai never made it home that night. Everyone begins calling around looking for her. They walk around her neighborhood looking for her they check all her favorite spots to blow off steam and theres no sign of her. Mike (her man) is starting to worry its been several hours since their argument and hes beginning to think something has happened to her. Finally they issue a missing persons report with the police. Days past and there was still no sign of Cai until one day a worker found her car sitting by the lake. the worker realized someone was sitting inside the car looked to be to him like they were sleeping. he knocked on the window only to find that this person wasn't sleepng they were dead. Cai was inside car huntched the wheel with a gunshot wound to the temple. She had killed herself inside her car with her grandfathers revolver. She was 22 years old.

Moral of the story, always tell the truth and never leave things unsaid. You never know when you may never get the chance to say everything you wanted to.

Peace and Love

Carrie L.

B.I.T.C.H.

Bitch...what does this word mean to you? Is it acceptable or disrespectful? Lately I have been observing men in a way that I haven't in the past. I have observed that some, not all, men believe that disrespect gets the pussy. I have in the past had a male to disrespect me and being young and naive I would tend to settle for things that you usually wouldn't because you think that you can't find something better. Let me tell that there are men who will go out of their way to make sure that you are treated like a lady. Now let's be honest I have only been able to find and catch only two and in the end I was the one who messed things up. Either I was afraid to let them in or I didn't know I was ready to love. I am young and I have my flaws but that doesn't mean that disrespecting me is something that I deserve. Yes some may say that we as women posses the "power of the pussy" and that is true but not all men are the types to be controlled by that. Reason being that they can get pussy anywhere they please. As a woman who respects myself I have found that pussy only has as much power as you think it has. If you combine respect for self and pussy power you cant lose. You also have remain who you are when you decide to start a relationship with someone. Relationships only work if you and that other person are on the same page. You can't have success in any relationship where the two of you are in different stages. As a human being we all have our flaws and there is always room to grow. Growth is progress. But if there is one thing I can not stand and will not tolerate is the disrepect that us women are faced with today. We have become bitches and hoes instead of queens and wives, and it is our fault. People will only treat you the way you let them. If you let your man call you a bitch or his bitch then he will continue to treat as so. But if let him know that you are not a bitch in any sense of the word he will either move on the one who will let him do that, or he will have enough respect for you that he will refrain from using that title to describe you. Being someone's down ass chick is different from being his bitch. A down chick rides or dies for her man but her man respects her because of who she is to him. When it comes to this subject lines become blured because some women believe that they mean the same thing when that is not the case. Some men may not agree with me on this, but people are entitled to their opions and let's not forget this is my fucking and blog and I honestly don't care what people think of me especially if you don't like what I have to say. Society has already laid down lables for people depending on how they live their lives and we are starting to do the same thing to ourselves. We have let words lable us when we dont need a lable. We are all humans and should be treated as such. We have to also remember to treat eachother as humans and stay with self respect especially us women...to me B.I.T.C.H. is just a word with no meaning other that female dog.

Peace & Love

Carrie L.

Girls With Tattoos

Well Hello all my faithful readers! I know it's been a while since I wrote something for yall. And I apologize I've been going through some thangs and life's been a little crazy for me lately. But today I decided to write about something I have big passion for. Here goes...

I have yet to meet a man who ever told me my tattoos were ugly or not sexy. I have 6 with more on the way. Being artist I decided that my body could work as a canvas as well. I have always wanted people to notice me for my artistic ability. And many times I have been a muse for my artist friends. But today I was startled to find that not everyone doesn't like tats. I was shocked! Not really...lol. Our society has been programed to think a certain way...closed minded. I have come across some people who have looked at me funny for my tattoos and my Monroe piercing I even had some tell me on an interview to make sure I don't wear it to work and at the time it wasn't even in. Sadly I have been told that my way of expression is less that desirable. My solution is to stay away from those type of people and surround myself with people with similar opinions to mine. That's why the men I date have tattoos or don't mind them. Hey what can I say I'm a sucker for tats and bad ass swagg....lol. I'm sure I'm too old for that word. Any who here's a questions for my male readers and be honest you know how I like it! Do you mind a woman with tattoos and unique piercings?

GONE TOO SOON...

Before I start this post I want to point out that recently I lost my uncle. So the past couple of days have been extremely hard for me. Usually I am someone who always has the answers and this time I didn't. Losing him was very hard and now that he's gone I've learned form it so that not only will his death not be in vain but so I can never forget who he was to me.

Have you wondered what it would be like to trade places with someone? Whether it be because they have something you want or because you wanted escape the situation you were in. No one truly knows the things you struggle with on a daily basis. Me personally have learned that when you are going through something its best to speak to someone about it. My uncle was going through something internally that many of us who were closest to him didn't know. Inside he struggling with thing that none of us could imagine. And on March 8Th he took his own life. Damn that was hard to say. It was such a shock to my family because no one could figure out why he had did it. He was more than an uncle to me he was like another father figure for me. He looked out for me when I needed something, he was there with his comedic relief when someone was down. Most importantly he was hardworking. I remember the talk I had with him after I got my DUI last year he told me that have to fix it and never do it again. And with a touch of comedy he said "I know you're going to drink again, we are a family of drinkers, but your ass better not get behind the wheel of another car.And all that i could do was smile and say, OK. And i haven't done it since. Sometimes I wonder what if I had asked him about the things I saw change in him, with all the suspected drug use. Sometimes he would come over and I would notice something strange about him. But him being my uncle I never asked because he was my elder. I wish he had known that he could come to me and talk to me. If he had just known I was there for him. When I think about these things I think about the bad things. I want to only remember the great times we had. All the laughs all the jokes. All the smiles and the tears from the laughter. Those are things I'll miss the most. He was a great man and character all his own. He was truly one in a million. And I am going to miss him so much.

So I leave you with this thought: If at any time you think that there is a negative change in someone you love (I mean anyone friends included) talk to them. If they reach out to you don't turn them away. If they say something that in any other situation they wouldn't help them. And if you think that you can't help them, find someone who will. Never abandon your family in their time of need. Love them always because you never know when God will decide to tap them on the shoulder and tell them its time to go home.


****************I DEDICATE THIS POST TO MY UNCLE DARREN "MOOSE" WILLIAMS R.I.P. GONE BUT NEVER FORGOTTEN*******************

Unconditional Love...

The subject for this post I am going to have to give to a long time friend of my mother. Thanks again Ms. Theresa. Now I have my own definition of unconditional love. Unconditional love to me is loving someone for everything they are while accepting them for all of their flaws and imperfections. Most of time unconditional love come from your family. For example your parents. I can honestly say that I have unconditional love from my dad. He is one of the most influential people in my life. When I thought that I wouldn't be able to make it through my dad was always there on my side letting me know that as long as I have God in my life I can over come anything that came my way. Not only is he a loving and supportive father he also had to fill the void of being my mother as well. My mother passed away when I was only two years old. Leaving my father to do twice the parenting. She was killed in a car accident. My father stepped up to raise my brother and I the best way he knew how. And in my opinion he did an excellent job. He showed us unconditional love by being a wonderful father and an awesome teacher. He was not the traditional father who tried to keep us under an iron fist, he let us live our lives making mistakes so we could learn from them. For this I have always had the up most respect for my father. Yet unconditional love is such broad subject. You can have unconditional love for inanimate objects reason being that love can be so broad. But unconditional love to me is one thing: love that has no boundaries making it easy to love with all of your being. So my questions readers, do you have unconditional love someone?

Peace and Love

Carrie L.

Stupid In Love...

I was listening to Rihanna'a song entitled Stupid In Love. And I decided to write about what my interpretation of the song would be. Big ups to RiRi for her latest album entitled Rated R. Stupid In Love...how many of us have been there? You would do anything and everything for your significant other knowing damn well they wouldn't do the same for you. Man what can I say I've been there numerous times. Thinking that if I put my all into him then maybe I might get that back in return. I had to learn the hard way many times I was being used for whatever reason weather it be my body my, money, my car or anything else. For a long time my vision was clouded by the fantasy that maybe one day I would get half of what I was giving to these men who weren't even worth the effort. I swear life to me has been one big learning experience, many instances I had to learn for myself the lessons and sometimes consequences for my actions. As I got old enough to realize that I had to love myself first before I could truly love someone else. I also had to learn how to respect myself before I could ask for it from someone else. But being stupid in love was one of the hardest lessons I ever had to learn. Reason being that I always ended up putting my all including my heart into a relationship and always getting hurt was the end. So after the last time it happened I wised up and promised myself I would never let it happen to me again. Finally after it happened more times than it should by the way...lol. One story was a few years back I was dating this dude he was cool and I actually loved hanging with him, we had a lot of fun together. We met at my best friend's birthday dinner one year. And at the time my girl was dating his friend. When I met him the complicated part was that his "ex" so he said, went to college with me and he asked me had I known her. He pointed out that she was my friend on facebook. Ha! That should been a red flag for me right? Nope it wasn't, my vision was clouded at the time. But anyway he went on to tell me all about her and things and I told him that every friend I have on Facebook I don't know personally. So now that his sneaky ass knows that I dint know her I was free game to date and go out with. We ended up dating for a couple months but in that time I was stupid for him doing any and everything he asked me to do. I did things for him that in mind I knew wasn't right and I still did it. By the way let me point out that he rocks with fake money! I have no respect for dude, this is to him: YOU'RE A FUCKING CLOWN! OK I'm back...lol...had to step outside myself for a minute. But to make a long story short I ended up finding out that he was still with his girlfriend and I was the mistress. Even back then that's not a title I would ever hold for anyone. And I also found out that I knew her too, my aunt was her hair stylist. Now days I refuse to be tricked, used or neglected again. Don't take what I'm saying the wrong way. I'm not saying I'm bitter or scorned just smart. And if the situation is not in my best intrest then I leave it alone. Although I am a bit jaded I still have enough room left in my heart for love and I intend to find one of these days. Just at this point in my life I'm enjoying the days God is giving me. And I made a very big promise to myself that I would live everyday as if it were my last,because, we truly don't know how many times God intends to let us wake up everyday. To all my readers (I'm speaking to my female and male readers) never be stupid in love or stupid in anything and always remember to love thy self.

Peace and Love

Carrie L.

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When It Ends...

What do you do when a relationship ends? Well I do you get up off your ass and live your life. No matter what happens you have to always put yourself first. You can't let one person be the center of your life, when you do that and they leave you, your world is devestated. I've known this feeling many times over and in the end I had to learn that the only person I had was me. I'm not saying they never loved or cared for me its just that after it was all said and done I was the one picking up the pieces and wiping my own tears. After this happened a few times I had to realize that life went on time did not wait for me. Time waits for no one. I shed tears and lost weight over men who in the end didn't mean that much to me. Because if they did I would probably still be with one of them right? I'm going to keep this one short and just say to everyone man or woman be there for yourself above all things, that way being alone won't be so damn hard.

Peace and Love

Carrie L.

They Were There The Whole Time

So I went on Facebook today to ask my friends and readers to give me a topic that I could use for my post today. And I decided to go with one of my friend's from college suggestion. He said write about when the right person for you has been in front of your face the whole time and you're to blind to see it. For many people they can never seem to see what they already have while looking for something. If you have a friend that is really close to you of the opposite sex and you pretty much tell them everything about what goes on in your life then nine times out of ten you may realize that that person is the person you should have been with the entire time. I went to see this movie called Valentine's Day last week staring Ashton Kutcher, Jamie Foxx, Jessica Biel, Jennifer Garner, Taylor Swift, Taylor Lautner, Jessica Alba, Patrick Dempsy and George Lopez. In the movie Ashton Kutcher's character is the owner of a flower shop and of course Valentine's Day is one of his busiest days of the year. But before going to work he decided to propose to his girlfriend who is played by Jessica Alba. How he did it was very romantic he got down on one knee while she slept and when she woke up he was there holding a ring. He said a few words and asked her to marry him she said yes, go figure. With an unsure look on her face she said yes. So the plot thickens. His best friend, who is played by Jennifer Garner, is dating a married man but she doesn't know he's still married. He is played by Patrick Dempsy. He decides, that instead of spending Valentine's Day with her, he is going to spend it with his wife. Later on in the day Jessica Alba's character comes to Ashton's shop not wearing her engagement ring her reasoning being that she didn't want people at work to make a big deal out of it. Funny how he was more excited about being engaged than she was. Ironically Patrick Dempsy's character comes to the flower shop to buy flowers for both his wife and his girlfriend. And Ashton's character recognizes his name on his credit card. Jennifer's character decides to go and surprise her boyfriend who told her we went out of town to San Diego for a doctors conference. Her best friend who is Ashton tries to stop her at the airport where he realizes that he has some type of feelings for her. She goes only to find out he never went to San Diego. To make a long story short Jennifer Garner's character and Ashton Kutcher's character realized that they were always meant to be together even after they had been best friends for years. So I say take a good look at the people around you to ensure that you don't over look a treasure. You may be out here looking for something that's been there the whole time. So do you think that your best friend could be your lover?

Friends With Benefits Yay? Nay?

I was talking with a friend of mine the other day, and she said that she would have a friend with benefits. Her reasoning was no strings, she said it would be a perfect relationship. I told her I have had a relationship like that before and it did have it's perks. I feel as if, if I'm going to be in a relationship I want it to be monogomous, but friends with benefits is something that works too. You don't have to worry about answering to anyone or explaining yourself to anyone. But what happens when one party falls for the other. Most of the time when sex is involved us women tend to fall for that person we are physical with. I'm a woman of my word and when I say something is going to be a certain way I stick to it. I will be real with a man and tell what I want out of the relationship and what I expect and what I won't stand for. No matter what type of relationship I may be in I ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS demand respect from my male counter part. Remember ladies you must respect yourself first if you want respect from other people. Whatever your preference, you have to ask for respect above all things. With all the perks it has, friends with benefits can get complicated. You can slip up and fall for the person. You can expect more from the person when they weren't expecting to be giving. so my question for you my loyal readers, would you have a friend with benefits?

Why DO Men Love Bitches?

Well I know I'm kind of late and everything but I am still reading a book and have been for a year (why a year I have no clue) called Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov. The book goes on to explain why men would prefer to love a "so called" bitch rather than a "good girl". This concept I just didn't get when I first started reading the book. I understood how it was applied and I've even seen how it works. And it is right men would prefer to be with a bitch. Now Ms. Argov isn't talking about a bitch in the literal sense, but in the way a woman should act towards a relationship and how she should handle the relationship. Now after reading the first half of the book I decided to apply what I learned on a guy I was dating at the time. And to my surprise it worked! I was excited and amazed at how accurate her directions were. I hardly had to do any work. All I had to do was play my part. She said things like call him on your own time. Don't make yourself available every time he calls or wants to see you. Make sure that seeing him fits into your schedule and is convenient for you to be with him and things like that. And it got me thinking that it is a shame that us women have to play games with men to get them to behave and/or treat us right. Has truly come to treating men like children in order to get them to do right by us? I mean seriously why do we have to do that? I have two explanations. One: that men are a lot like children and the only way to keep them in check (like you do children)you have to have set of rules to keep them in line. Two: being that us women don't know any other way to be. Ms. Argov also says who the opposite of the BITCH/DREAM GIRL is, she's named the GOOD GIRL/DOORMAT. The good girl will do anything for her man or man she's dating. She will go out of her way to be with him or make him happy while she's not all that happy. For example let's say your man decides to go out with his boys to a bar, and he says he'll call you when leaves the bar. He decided wait and call you at 3 AM. You can do one of two things you can politely tell him that its too late for him to come over your house or for you to come to his, and tell him that you will see him at a later time. Or you can hop out of bed where you were fast asleep and let him come over or you hop in your car to go see him. Now which one would you do? Me naturally if I'm fast asleep I might not answer my phone even if I hear it. And I damn sure ain't getting out of the bed to go anywhere. I hardly like getting out of bed to pee let alone driving somewhere. And as for someone coming to my house at 3 AM is out of the questions and not going to happen. And that's just one of my rules don't treat me like a booty call if you don't want me to treat you like a piggy bank. I'm not at any level a gold digger, I just rather be treated with respect and in doing so you will get my respect in return. So my question to you is would you rather be BITCH or a GOOD GIRL?

Am I Really Anti-Valentine's Day?

Hello to my of my readers. Sorry I haven't been on here in so long unfortunately my computer is broken and I am in the process of getting it fixed. Well I decided to dedicate this posting to all those who have either lost love or are tired of losing it. I decided that this year I would not spend Valentine's Day alone. In doing so I went out of town with someone I care deeply for. But for so many years I have always spent Valentine's Day alone. Either at the time I was not seeing anyone to spend it with or a boyfriend or the person I was dating conveniently became unavailable, stood me up or broke up with me in time for Valentine's Day. Sucks right? In my eyes it doesn't because it has been my ritual that I spend it with my other single friends going out to dinner or for drinks. But I have decided that I want to change this tradition do something different. But I'm not sure how to just be in a relationship on that day or weekend. I have tried to make it work or last in relationships. Either I have been the one who was dumped or I was the one doing the dumping. It's a shame really that I couldn't stay in a relationship. I don't think I have met someone yet that I feel has rally got me. I've been with men who have loved me or even been in love with me (which are two very different things by the way), but I have not felt the same. There always ended up being some type conflict when we would finally get settled in to the relationship. Either his jealous/insecure side would finally show up or mine would. And many times I would find myself at a crossroads where after a while I wouldn't know if I wanted to remain in the relationship. See I am the type who gets tired of the same old thing. I'm the type that you have to keep things new and exciting to keep my attention. And at times I hate that I am like this, because in all honesty I have ruined many relationships because of it. I ask myself sometimes what would have happened if I had just stuck it out in my past relationships. So tell me readers am I anti-valentine's day or am I anti-relationship? Or am I just afraid of something?

Friend or Foe: Real or Fake?

I was on Facebook checking messages and posting a new status when I came across a status of a good friend of mine and it read "Friend or Foe: Real or Fake..... who's who. im tha friend to everyone, but who's tha friend to me. oh yeah {ME!!!} ME, MYSLEF, & I.... thats all I have at tha end of tha day!!! POW" and I decided to make that my topic today. Well i think that over the past couple of years from high school to college I have made many accquaintences and very few friends. In high school I had to learn the hard way to realize who my real friends were. And I can honestly day that I have only three true girlfriends the rest are just people I happen to hang out with from time to time. But how can you really know if someone is being real or fake with you? I have sense for these type of things. I can tell when someone is lying to me or telling the truth especially men. I don't know its a gift I guess...lol. But for many people you can not determine if someone is being completely honest with you or not? My girls and I have been friends for over ten years they are like my sisters. And for anyone who knows me, knows who these girls are and they know who they are as well. I made a promise that I will not name names without permission. I'm not Karine Steffans or anything. But anyway back to the topic at hand. My girls and I have been through alot together. We laughed,we cried, we fought, we argued and we even stopped talkin for periods of time like family would do. Yet in all the years I've know them I have never gotten to a point where I said I would stop being their friend. But I've had girls that I have came across who crossed me and tried to think I wouldn't find out and they found out the hard way how I am when I am crossed. Let's just say you're better off staying on my good side. Fake people truly disgust me. Whats wrong with keeping it real? Like I said before I am going to keep it real and be brutally honest on this blog the only line I will not cross is putting names out there. That would be unclassy of me. I'm not out for revenge. Moving on means growth for me. Ok so here is how you can tell if you have a real friend or a fake friend. A real friend will not let you walk out of the house looking crazy, a fake friend will let you wear anything because nine times of ten they will try to make themselves look good but making you look bad. A real friend will not let you drunk dial your ex talking reckless and crying on the phone, a fake friend will not only let you do this but they will find amusement in watching you make a fool of yourself. A real friend will not cross the line and date, call or talk to someone you slept with (unless it's for your sake), a fake friend will go behind your back and get his number. Remember ladies you can not blame the man, your friend should know better and this man is being a man its the reason why you let him go in the first place. A real friend will have your back in a fight (unless its one on one), a fake friend will disappear or step to the side while you get your ass whipped by three girls, and when the smoke clears shes fake picking you up off the floor with not a scratch on her body talking about "you ok?". A real friend will hold you down when someone says something bad and untrue about you, a fake friend will keep their mouth closed. And the list goes on and on. I'm sure alot of us have fake friends. That friend you won't go out with because she causes drama. Or the girl you won't leave alone with your man. Most of us have had that friend before. The one flirts a little too hard. So heres my question how do you know if you have a fake fiend or a real friend? And remember the best friend you'll ever have is yourself only you can love yourself just as much as God does.

My First Blog Post

Let me start by thanking everyone who is here visiting my blog and supporting me. I started this blog mainly because I have alot to say and I have found myself being a therapist/advice colomnist to my friends and often people I don't even know. I want to be able and give my words or wisdom and encouragement to everyone. On here I will talk about love, life, men, women, family and anything you want to talk about. Let me also point out that I invite anyone on here to speak your mind that means that even if you do not agree with what I am saying then tell me I want to be able to hear from every point of view. Now let me tell you a little bit about me. My name is Carrie and I am from the DMV and proud of it. For those of you who don't know what or where that is, it's DC Maryland and Virginia area but we just call it the DMV or short. I grew up in Silver Spring, MD and I am a proud product of the Montgomery County Public School System. I'm 22 and single just trying to find my place in the world. I want to leave this world knowing that I made a difference and a small mark if any on this earth. So without further adue may introduce Carrie L's World...

Commiment? What's So Hard About that?

I decided to start with this subject mainly because it's one of the subjects in this world that intrigues me the most. I have wonder for so many years why we as humans (not all) but some can not seem to commit to one person. Me personally have stuggled with this for many years. I'll find a guy who is right for me in everyway and I'll try to find some flaw in him and I am the one who ends up messing it up. I use the excuse that "I don't want to get hurt" knowing damn well this man is not going to hurt me at all. The truth is I am terrifed of relationships. They scare the shit out of me! I have tried for to stick it out and stay but I struggle most of the time with the staying part. I kno what you women are thinking who is this lady? And you men where have you been all my life? Well let me be honest I don't really enjoy being single, I am sige yes by choice but also to ensure that I don't hurt another man. I am trying my hardest to remain selfless because sometimes it's women like me who mes it up for future women who a man might end up with. Let me also say that I am in no way a permiscuous woman, I am very selective of who I sleep with sometimes too selective is to why at the moment I am celebate. Still I can't seem to find a solution to my delema. I have always found that adding a title on to something can sometimes ruin a good thing. It's like Carrie Bradshaw and Mr. Big getting married in the Sex and The City movie when they were perfectly happy just being together. I want a monogomous relationship where I can be happy and content without the fear of hurting my partner of getting hurt. My girlfriend said that maybe my fear of commitment comes from me getting hurt so many times where I opened up and gave a man my all who didnt deserve me. I don't want to think I'm crazy or weird for being one of the few women out here who can't commit. And remember this is not by choice. I want to be able to commit and give myself entirely to someone, I'm just not sure how to. And at times when I do fall I fall for the worng one. It's frustrating. It's been my experience that relationships take a lot of work. It's like having a second job that you get paid for with love but also fights and tears. And who likes to fight? I don't. I 'll tellyou right now if I get into an argument with someone they will only be arguing with themsleves because I don't do the yelling and screaming part. I feel like as adults we should be able to keep things civil and talk to eachother. So answer me this question why do you think that it is so hard for people, men and women, to commit?

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